Romance Just the way You like it!

Better Relationship through Erectile Dysfunction (ED) Yep, You Read it Right.

2011-09-10T12:41:00.000-07:00

By Yvonne Sinclair M.A.

Picturethis: soft lights, comfy bed, glass of something tasty, freshly showeredbodies, loving couple, and soft music. Yep, we are getting some tonight. Butthe little man is napping. Now the big man keeps thinking, “Any minute now hewill get with the program because I am ready.” Big man’s partner is thinking,“Maybe I need to think of something new to do.” In any case, the little man isnot playing. Now we know that hot sex can happen without an erection. We canpleasure and enjoy and orgasm without the penis ever getting hard. However, itis nice when little man is in on the fun.

Istumbled onto (well, okay, I was looking) a site called “Ask Men.” I foundinformation about sex and erectile dysfunction. Maybe you didn’t know, andmaybe you suspected, but these facts about sex are outstanding.

*Sexrelieves stress, lowers cortisol levels, and reduces our risk of stress-relateddiseases.

*Sexis exercise, and we all know the benefits of exercise for cardiovascular healthand weight control. Rigorous sex can burn about 200 calories.

*Britishresearchers have found that sex increases longevity, boosts immune function,and improves our sense of smell.

*Youcannot overdose on sex; in this instance, more actually is better.

*Sexreleases endorphins, and they help to control pain.

*Orgasmicsex promotes prostate health, according to some studies.

Perhapswe can throw out the treadmill, cancel the gym, sell the elliptical, and justgrab our partner. That will be more fun, and it will nurture our relationship.Instead of telling the buds at lunch, “I did an hour workout on the treadmillthis morning,” we can announce, “We enjoyed an hour of great, orgasmic,pain-reducing, endorphin-enhancing sex this morning.”

Allof this is true, but unfortunately, the treadmill just turns on.

Humansdo not work as automatically. When erectile dysfunction occurs, the fun stops.An erection is a complicated thing. It is tied to emotional well being,physical and mental health, situation, and little voices in our head. A womanhas it easier; she just has to show up. Of course, women have sexualchallenges, also. However, the challenges are not as obvious as a lack oferection.

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Six for Sex: Six Tips for a Better Love Life

2011-09-05T12:05:00.000-07:00

By Yvonne Sinclair M.A.

That first glow of in love sometimes gets lost in thejob of daily living. When children are added, it may seem you then ride thetrain to nowhere. Your relationship with your spouse gets lost in the muck ofbreakfast, getting kids up and dressed, off to work and school, back again withhomework, soccer, karate, sleepovers, play dates, dinner, laundry, pets, and onand on...

Find out how to stop the frustrating merry-go-round and get some love for you and your partner..

Six for Sex: Six Tips for a Better Love Life

10 Tips to Make This Summer the Summer of Love

2011-07-20T03:39:00.000-07:00

By Rosemary Black

The weather's not all that heats up in the summer. This can also be the season of love, whether you're single and looking for a relationship or in a committed partnership.

"Summer's a great time to develop a new relationship or to spice up the one that you already have," says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. "Summer brings with it such a sense of optimism."

Here's how to make this the steamiest summer ever in terms of romance.

1. Make the weather work to your advantage. Open your doors and windows to the warm breezes, put flowers everywhere, and inhale deeply. "Summer has such wonderful smells," Orbuch says. "And positive smells can increase the attraction between two people."

2. Shed those winter blues and resolve to be optimistic. "Just waking up to sunshine can have a positive effect on mood," Orbuch says. "And that optimism rubs off on other people as well." It's natural to want to be close to someone who's got a sunny, positive outlook on life, so strive for an upbeat attitude.

3. Summer's the perfect opportunity to show a little more skin, so make every inch count. Wear strapless tops in flattering colors, flirty sundresses, strappy sandals, and, of course, bathing suits. And there's nothing wrong with adding a fun, floppy hat to your outfit.

4. If you can afford it, take a weekend share in a summer rental with a group of singles. "A summer house is a great way to meet people," says Brooke Wise, MBA, founder of Wise Matchmaking. "You're all in a house together by the beach, and weekend relationships can turn into serious relationships when the fall comes."

5. Use your creative juices to add an element of surprise into activities that can increase passion and romance. Plan a couples massage night, go to a wine tasting together, or stay up late watching erotic videos together.

6. If you're going out on a first date with someone, schedule something that takes advantage of the gorgeous weather. "Plan a picnic outside, or go to an arboretum," Orbuch says. "It's a little out of the ordinary and chances are it will help you reach your goal, which is a second date."

7. If you're single, take advantage of outdoor activities, like rooftop bars, movies in the park, and hiking clubs.

8. If you're a couple, take advantage of slower work schedules to do something together that you've been putting off due to lack of time. "Plan a getaway to a bed and breakfast," Wise says. "Or take a picnic to the park, just the two of you."

9. If you're a couple and you're feeling as if things are getting ho-hum and stale, plan something exciting together. Take a road trip, go up in a hot air balloon, or take a plane ride that lasts for at least two hours before you reach your destination, Wise says. That way, you'll feel far enough away from the kids to really relax together. (There's no time like the summer, when the kids are out of school, to leave them with grandparents for a few days.)

10. If you're single, save up and go on a singles trip, Wise suggests. "A trip to a faraway land, where you're traveling with others who are single, is a great way to meet someone," she says.

Happily Ever After Story

2009-09-22T09:16:00.001-07:00

I Don’t Love You Any More
by Thurman C. Petty, Jr.

Early in my ministry I became so eager to succeed in as a pastor that I worked for the church from 14 to 18 hours a day, seven days a week. I seldom ate with my family or spent any time with them except at church functions. I saw our daughter Lydia in the morning when I sent her off to school. I pecked my wife Martha on the cheek as I left for some church responsibility. And I often came home late at night after the rest of the family had gone to bed.

Then one horrible day I realized that Martha hadn't told me she loved me for a long time. I asked her why. She told me, quite frankly, 'Because I don't.' That came as a shock to me, because I thought we had a good marriage based on love. So why didn't she love me anymore?

During the next few days I began to realize that I had been the guilty culprit. I had driven away Martha's love by my lack of attention, my ceaseless work, and my selfish grasp for the goodwill of the church. I'd spent so much time with my work that I didn't even know her anymore and it was just as obvious that she no longer knew me. What should I do? I still loved Martha. I didn't want to lose her!

About that time I received a call to pastor a two- church district in another state. The ministerial secretary (pastor’s director) had been a close friend of the family whom I had known for many years. One day I told him: 'I've got a problem with my marriage. Martha says she doesn't love me any more. I think I need some time to work this out.'

'That's all right with me,' he said. 'Whatever time it takes, you should spend it.'

And so I began to spend about half of my time with Martha―doing things with her we'd always enjoyed. We worked together, shopped together, played games together, assembled picture puzzles together, went out to eat together. All during this time I didn't know if I was reaching her heart, if she was growing to love me again.

And then one glorious day Martha came to me and said, 'I love you'―for the first time in over two years. I'll never forget the relief that flooded my heart and my thankfulness to God for bringing us together in love once more.

I decided right then that, God help me, Id never again allow our love to become estranged. And so today I spend a lot of time with Martha, time well spent on nurturing our family life. I know what it's like to lose the love of someone I treasure very dearly, and I don't want that to ever happen again.

That was over 40 years ago, and we’ve had some rough times since then. But we’ve pulled together and kept it going. Today we’re retired in Montana, thoroughly enjoying our time together. We’ll have our 50th anniversary in August of 2010. Praise God from Whom all blessings flow.

Been two years....WOW been busy.

2009-09-11T16:17:00.000-07:00

Sometimes a little romance can go a really long way. A loving touch on the check, a sweet word on support, a look of connection, can all be romantic and deepen the emotional intimacy in a relationship. That soul mate connection feel so wonderful. What is hard to remember, is that during the work of living and keeping up with the pace of this current world, those wonderful moments that keep the soul mate connection and deepen the emotional intimacy happen less and less often. Paying attention to our relationship and the feelings of our partner help to keep the connection firm. CARE that is the word for today. It is, in my eyes, the most romantic word in the English language. Think about it, how romantic it is to have someone really truely care about you. Someone who cares about what you think and feel and crave. Someone who is in a loving relationship with you and cares enough to work at deepening the connection you have. Give the CARE word a chance, and remember those little things that deepen the emotionally intimacy of your relationship.

Light his Fire

2007-11-06T13:37:00.001-08:00

Men need to know they are loved and they enjoy being pampered too. Ask your man what he would like. Men may like you to;

*Notice Him
*Notice his taking care of things...any things...you get what you notice.
*Notice his shoulders, arms, eyes, cute butt....hwatever you think is "fine."
*See the "light her fire" list for ideas for him also.
*Dress sexy (the way he thinks is sexy) for him.
*Buy a large feather and use your imagination. Perhaps "tie" him up with a scarf and use the feather allllll over him.
*Smell good.
*Snuggling with him in the middle of the night can be romantic, whether it leads to sex or not.
*Meet him at the car, if your are home first, with a glass of something nice to drink and a "Hello" kiss. Just because!!

Use your great imagination. Have fun with this. Be ready for the love you get back.

Light her Fire

2007-11-06T13:29:00.000-08:00

Try these ideas to light her fire. If you want to know what your woman wants ask her.

*Kissing
*Touching
*Candlelight
*Soft Music
*Good smells
*Some effort to create a romantic atmosphere
*Non-Sexual touching; hugging, massage, caresses
*Tell her she is sexy
*Tell her she is loved...outloud with words
*Turn off the TV and turn onto her
*Talk to her about-everything/anything
*Plan a picnic - alone with her (even if it is on the living room floor)
*Gentle kisses and almost sexual touching until she begs for more
*Undress her-not inthe bedroom- and very very slowly, paying attention to each layer
*See "Light his fire" for more ideas.

Take your time with all of this and any other ideas you have. Make pleasure the goal. Have fun and Enjoy.

Always Feeling Loved

2007-11-06T13:14:00.000-08:00

I need constant attention. Not high "maintenance" attention. Not obsessive pampering. Just little bits of attention. These little acts, words, and touches keep me filled and ready for love or love-making all the time. My mate does this for me. He gets the "ready" hot woman he wants without huge effort. Here is the list of things he does to keep me feeling Loved; just a passing caress-light touch on my hair or shoulder or behind, snuggling up behind me with a gentle hug and an ear nibble, saying "Hi Beautiful", love "sticky" note on my car window, a flower (dandelion will do) on my pillow when I turn back the covers to go to bed, folding the clothes out of the dryer, shoulder rub after I have been on the computer too long, standing with my towel when I get out of the shower and then drying me off gently and slowly, bringing me coffee in bed....I could go on and on. Life is great with him. I am here to stay. Ann

Ideas for Romance;

2007-11-06T12:53:00.000-08:00

**You are driving. Pull over in a safe area. Unbuckle your seat belt. Lean over and gently take your love into your arms and plant a juicy deep gentle Looooonnnnggg kiss on her lips. Take your time taking their breath away. Buckle up and with a smug look on your face-drive on.

**Leave a message on their cell phone. Call when you know they will not answer. Tell them you love them. Tell them they are beautiful. Tell them they are sexy and you want them. Tell them something wonderful you know they want to hear. Be truthful, be creative, don't hold back.

**If you live in an area this is possible try it out. Kids in bed/no kids. Night has settled in. Get together a blanket, glasses, wine or something nice to drink, tissues or other needed "play" things. Take them outside under the stars and make a "nest". Come back into the house and blindfold your love....lead her out into the nest and let whatever comes naturally happen. Take your time. Enjoy the atmosphere. Enjoy each other.

**Come home with flowers, dessert, dinner, bubble bath, or something you know will please your love.

**Give your love a certificate for a massage-You are the massage therapist. Include a candle and "flavored" massage oil.

**Give a gift certificate for 1/2 hour of"anything goes".

**Partner has a job around the house they Hate and keep putting off. Find a way to do it or have it done for them.

Ideas for Guys to use

2007-11-06T12:47:00.000-08:00

**You are driving....pull over in a safe area. Unbuckle your seat belt. Take her into your arms and gently and firmly kiss her on the lips. Take your time and let her breath be taken away. Buckle up and with a smug look drive on.

Boa and Stilettos

2007-10-16T07:22:00.000-07:00

Well I am a visual guy. I like to look and I like to see my gal. One time I went to visit my girlfriend and she didn't answer the doorbell. I knocked and then tried the door. It opened and when I looked in She was drapped over the couch with her red stilettos kicking and her red boa covering the essentials. Wow!!..my kind of romance.

Romance Warms Cold Feet

2007-10-16T07:20:00.000-07:00

Hello I just want to say Romance doesn't have to be something big. My honey rubs my cold feet til the are warm. I call that Real Romance.

Touches are Touching

2007-10-16T07:15:00.000-07:00

I love to be touched just because. Not for sex but just to be loved. My partner does that. I think it is so romantic. A little touch of his hand on my hair. A snuggle up behind me and hug me and then he is gone. A whisper in my ear - "hi beautiful".....He is just the romance King. He keeps me Hot with his non-sexual touching.

Dressed for Bed

2007-10-16T07:12:00.000-07:00

My name is Angela and my husband often has to leave for weeks at a time. I hate those times and I especially hate the going to bed alone time. One of those times when he was leaving we had talked about how hard getting into our bed without him was for me. The first night he was gone I delayed my bedtime until I could delay no longer. I pulled back the covers and there on my side of the bed between the sheets was his hoodie and shorts. The sleeves on the hoodie were wrapped around a nice card. I felt like a part of him was still there with me. I wore the hoodie to bed and felt like his arms were wrapped around me all night.

Wine and Ocean Jasper

2007-10-16T07:09:00.001-07:00

Hi I love rocks...real earth rocks I mean. I love crystals and jasper and rose quartz. My Andy gives me a little trouble about loving my rocks better than his...well that is not true. One night we had a nice romantic dinner. He poured us wine and we sat at the window. During dinner I got up to get something, when I returned and picked up my glass of wine it clanked. I looked inside and there was a small ocean jasper heart. He got My heart. I loved his effort to please me and get something I liked. But his delivery was the Best.

Shoes in the Kitchen

2007-10-16T07:03:00.000-07:00

Hi my name is Josh and I am a male person. I left for a business trip last year and was gone for several days. When I returned home I came into the house through the kitchen door. I called for my wife but she didn't answer. When I switched on the light there was a shoe in the middle of the kitchen floor. I was a little concerned and as I picked up the first shoe I saw another in the dining room. Then her sweater was in the entry-her jeans at the bottom of the stairway-her socks next-then her shirt at the landing and her bra at the top of the stairs. The bedroom door was closed and on the door knob was a new thong I had never seen her wear. I opened the door to find her in bed with a lacy nightgown on and two nice glasses of wine. Dinner was finger food with candles and nice music. I didn't bother to put on my "nightie" and it was the best homecoming I can ever remember. Thanks Jen.!!